Grief without fixing, even through night sweats
Grief often arrives alongside work, caregiving, bodily change, and other responsibilities that do not pause for loss. Devine rejects the idea that grief is a disorder to fix quickly, describing it instead as a natural response to something that cannot be undone. Night sweats are not explained by bereavement alone and may require medical assessment, but disrupted sleep can make sorrow harder to carry. Against the pressures of midlife, the book offers permission and language: reduce avoidable suffering, ask for practical support, and stop measuring grief against other people’s timetable. Healing means learning to live with loss, not proving it has disappeared.
About Megan Devine
Megan Devine was already a psychotherapist when she witnessed her partner Matt drown in 2009. Experiencing grief from inside exposed the gap between clinical language and actual loss, leading her to create Refuge in Grief and challenge recovery culture.
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